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Karen Paul shares jewelry and joy with “Little More Charming”

Looking for a little more charm in your life? We’ve got just the ticket for you, dahling.

It’s my great pleasure to introduce Little More Charming™, an online boutique that sells one-of-a-kind studded charms, sequined wristlets, bedazzled flip-flops and other adorable-yet-glamorous items I love. And all of the items are reasonably priced, so I can get my bling without breaking the budget.

Founded in 2010 by Karen Paul, Little More Charming™ has already become a huge success, with trendy tote bags and jewelry items fit for young girls, tweens, teens and women of all ages.

But it’s not just the store we adore here at Holly Pinafore (corny, I know, but it just rolled off my tongue that way). We love and admire Karen, a vivacious mom and entrepreneur who decided she wanted to do something fun for a living. And indeed, she did.

Because, after all, what’s not fun about accessories?

“I do have an addiction to accessories and I have happily passed on that addiction to my daughter,” says Karen with a hearty chuckle. This woman certainly has a great sense of humor and a spunky, energetic vibe that seems to transmit through her products.

Karen explains that she practically grew up in the fashion industry. Her mother worked as Fashion Director for Saks Fifth Avenue and would stage elaborate fashion shows. Karen started helping out at the shows at age 12. “I loved the glitz and glamour,” she says.

But in adulthood, the closest Karen ever got to the fashion scene was by working as a talent agent as well as in the production office for the TV show “Knot’s Landing.”  Soon after her daughter Hannah entered kindergarten, Karen and her husband decided that Karen would retire to spend more time with their little girl.

“I have one child and one chance with that child,” says Karen. “It was very important for me to pick her up from school every day. I never miss any of her sports games.”

Many people think that full-time mommyhood leaves no opportunity for a woman to follow her dreams. But in Karen’s case, it seems the decision to become a stay-at-home-mom has brought Karen closer to the fashionista lifestyle she enjoyed as a child. The creation of Little More Charming not only gives her the opportunity to spend more time with her family, but it also allows Hannah and her friends the opportunity to participate in the brainstorming and designing of each accessory.

“I actually bring Hannah and her friends together for focus groups to ask them their opinions on different designs,” says Karen.

But Karen hopes to accomplish more through her business than just sales. “I would love for my daughter to see how you can start something from scratch and grow it into a successful business. I don’t think my business makes a difference in the world, but it is fun. And it lets girls be creative with the charms and the accessories.  Girls change accessories and clothes every half hour. This is perfect for them!  They can constantly change the charms around – add new ones, come up with different phrases or words to use on the products,” she says.

So,who’d have thought! After years of working behind the scenes, Karen was finally given the chance to shine—to put that extra special sparkle in the lives of girls and women.  We’re honored to put Karen and Little More Charming in the spotlight.

 

 

How to survive the holidays with your crazy family

For most, thoughts of the holidays conjure images of turkey, tinsel and tryptophan comas. However, for others it may inspire anxiety, dread and general uneasiness over the thought of your overbearing family. If your family is anything like mine, upon entering Grandma’s house you’re inundated with questions about your love life, asked to borrow money and immediately shoved into a tiny kitchen with six other women while the males sit and watch football in the living room.

Over the years, I’ve mastered maneuvers to make it through those visits. Hopefully my suggestions will help or at least make you feel better about having a crazy family too!

1. Take a piece offering. Even if Aunt Whoever tells you she’s got it covered, score points by bringing a simple dessert or side dish. Just don’t bring something she’s already made because she’ll accuse you of thinking you make it better than she does. LOL!

2. Have an ally, a friendly face. My family tends to behave themselves when strangers are around. Even if your family doesn’t keep those annoying, “when are you going to get married,” questions to themselves, a friend to swap “WTF” glances is a God-send! If at all possible, make it a gay guy. The ladies will love his fashion tips and your mean, Neanderthal uncle will avoid the both of you.

3. Take your knitting with you. For one, it calms you down and you can use the needles as defense when your ornery male cousins pick on you. If you don’t knit, take whatever arts and crafts, A.K.A busy work, to keep your mind occupied and your heart rate down. “Woosah!”

4. Whether you’re coming in from out of town or just driving a few blocks, try to remember it’s only for a little while. Having light at the end of the long, dark, guilt trip tunnel helps keep things in perspective.

5. Speaking of perspective, try to remember that your family isn’t the worst. When all else fails, pop in a copy of “National Lampoon’s, Christmas Vacation.” It’s funny, festive and you’ll be thankful your family is only two-thirds as bad as the “Griswolds.”

In addition, keep in mind these few things NOT to do.

1. Don’t joke around with your overly sensitive brother. No matter what, he won’t think it’s as funny as you do.

2. Don’t drink too much booze. A little can take the edge off, but too much and you’re stuck longer to sober up.

3. Don’t answer the question if your somewhat plump sister asks if she looks fat. Don’t lie, but don’t tell the truth. Fake a sneeze and leave the room to blow your nose.

4. Don’t put yourself in the position to argue with a family member that will NEVER admit to being wrong. You end up with nothing but the desire to spike their mashed potatoes with rat poison.

5. DON’T SPIKE ANYONE’S FOOD WITH RAT POISON!

Family will always be family and chances are they love you a million times more than they are annoying. Even if it doesn’t seem so at first, family is a blessing. Here’s to you and your family and may you all have a happy and healthy holiday season!

 

 

Featured photo: 20th Century Fox / www.millionaireplayboy.com

Perfect perfumes: some of the nicest, best-scented fragrances to buy

The stores are loaded with lots of fun fresh fragrances!  Scents hinting of green tea, green  apples, light bouquets of blush and rose, as well as jasmine are extremely popular.  I recently sampled a few fragrances and found several that are quite appealing.

Wonderstruck by Taylor Swift is one of the more popular scents for teens and young adults. It is youthful and struck me as having a light, fruity champagne quality.  Once it settles, it maintains a slight musky/sandalwood scent that is rather nice. Wonderstruck’s core ingredients include green tea, apple blossom, raspberry, dewberry, and peach.  In my opinion, the qualities of this scent are somewhat similar to Someday by Justin Bieber and the Britney Spears’ Midnight Fantasy eau de Parfum. When testing all three, I found Wonderstruck to be a bit more sophisticated and appealing than the other two.

Peace, Love and Juicy by Juicy Couture is very light and soft. There are hints of vanilla and fruit. This is an easy scent to wear as it is not too sweet, nor is it overbearing. Alternatively, I also thought it was somewhat unremarkable.

Versace’s Bright Crystal is very pleasing. It has a nice depth to it. Bright Crystal is heavier than some of the other fragrances that I tested, but it’s not overpowering. It’s a more mature scent and reminded me of fresh roses, my favorite milled soaps, and sophisticated outings.

Lancôme just introduced a new fragrance in their Trésor line named Midnight Rose. It is very feminine and includes hints of raspberry, black currant, jasmine, peony, vanilla, cedar, and fresh roses.  It is very distinct. Give this fragrance a chance. The initial time that I sampled Midnight Rose, I was not taken by it. Once it settled, however, I found it to be a scent that I kept coming back to.  It really is addictive, although it may not be for everyone. I see this as more of a fall/winter fragrance rather than a spring/summer.

One of my favorites is Light Blue by Dolce and Gabbana.  It has a light sparkling fruity scent.  Some attributes to this pleasant combination are bamboo, white rose, jasmine, cedar wood, and amber.  This is a scent that I could comfortably wear even on a daily basis as it is not overpowering, but rather very inspiring and irresistible.

Clinique produces the Happy line of fragrances, including Happy and Happy Heart.  I found Happy Heart to be very warm and inviting.  It was rosy and light, with a very youthful/playful side.  The Happy fragrance was exactly as it is titled; it possesses a fresh citrus scent that really does conjure up the sensation of happiness.  Talk about a great pick-me-up on a gloomy day.

I spoke to numerous friends and co-workers about their fragrance preferences. The list of favorite perfumes was wide in range and varied from commonly known fragrances such as Beautiful, by Estee Lauder and Escape from Calvin Klein to fragrances produced by Origins such as Calyx and Ginger Spray, as well as the use of handcrafted essential oils, such as lavender and jasmine.

Almost unanimously we enjoy a soft, light fragrance that makes us feel good. When asked about all-time favorite scents, most people mentioned fragrance that conjured up memories from the past and fondly reminded them of their mothers, grandmothers, friends, or a destination, such as the beach. Mostly we use fragrance for special occasions to make it all that more special. I found it fascinating that there were very few common fragrances listed among the women polled.  It really is true that fragrance is a very personal thing.  It seems that marketing plays a role, but when a woman finds a scent that she loves, she really makes it her own.

Dear Dr. G: My friend has a drinking problem

Dear Dr. G,

A good friend of mine from college seems to have a drinking problem. Every time we go out, she can’t just drink socially. She has to get wasted. And frankly, it’s uncomfortable and embarrassing. Especially when I’m the one who has to hold her up as we’re walking out of the bar. I am afraid to say anything to her, as she gets very testy every time I give any kind of advice. I don’t want to sound like her parent, so I don’t know what I should do. I want to be her friend, but a) I’m worried about her and b) I don’t want to get a bad reputation by hanging around someone who drinks like that all the time. Am I being mean for saying this? What steps could I take to make sure she gets some kind of help without ruining the friendship?

Bottled Up Emotion

Dear Bottled Up,
You certainly are not being mean. Reputations are crucial and once they are damaged they may take several years to repair. Regarding the help that you feel you need to procure for your friend–you may be aiming too high. I was initially going to recommend that you have a conversation with her about your concerns about her drinking when she is sober. It seems, though, that you have already tried that to no avail.

It is not your responsibility to be holding her up at a bar. If you truly value the friendship then perhaps you can get together with her in alcohol-free environments in the future.

Good luck!

Dr. G.

Why we LOVE Jari, creator of the Get RIPPED! fitness DVD series

As someone who’s a major fitness junkie, I’ve been a huge fan of Jari Love since college–a.k.a. the days when I’d pop in one of her weight training DVDs and pump iron in my shoebox-sized dorm room. Unlike those annoying personal trainers who bully their clients with the “no-pain, no-gain” cliché, Jari exudes positive energy and empowerment. With her radiant smile, friendly personality and warm, encouraging attitude, she helps me pull through even the toughest sets of squats and lunges. I feel like I’ve known her for years.

A professional singer who had performed in a country-pop band, Jari switched gears and eventually became one of Canada’s favorite celebrity trainers. Her Get RIPPED! DVD series have grown wildly popular in Canada and the U.S. as well, placing her on fitness A-lists everywhere. Her products have been reviewed (with extremely positive feedback) in publications such as the New York Times, Fitness, SelfOxygen, Natural Bodybuilding & Fitness Magazine, LA Times and Newsday. In December 2010,”O” Magazine showcased the Get Extremely RIPPED! 1000 workout DVD as one of Gayle’s Pretty Delicious Gifts for the holidays.

But success hasn’t made Jari Love any less approachable. Actually, it has given her the opportunity to connect on a heart-to-heart level with so many of her clients and fans. And despite her hard work and busy training schedule, Jari still makes time for her husband, kids and favorite hobbies. The 46-year-old mother of two enjoys competitive running, ceramic painting and volunteering for charities.

I’m not exaggerating when I say Jari possesses an extreme sense of kindness, humility and grace. How do I know? I interviewed her myself.

THE JARI LOVE Q&A with Holly Pinafore

Holly: Jari, I absolutely love everything you do, but I admire the person you are. So I would like to know, when did your career in fitness begin?

Jari Love: Thank you so much! My career began back in 2000 after I suffered a running injury. I became more interested in the body, how it works, and how I could keep my fitness up while not being able to run. This is when I started doing my own metabolic testing, using this very cool device called a metabolic cart. I learned some surprising facts that changed my life, I wanted to share this information and that’s when I launched the Jari Love Get RIPPED! program.

Holly: How do you compare yourself to other trainers out there? What makes you stand out?

Jari Love:  I go the extra mile to keep participants informed about the calories they’re burning, whether it’s showing how much you burn on each exercise track in the Get RIPPED! program, or giving direct comparisons to other, often less effective, workout methods. In Get RIPPED! to the Core for example, you’re burning the same or even more than you would on a treadmill, and you continue to burn calories after the workout’s over because of the weight training. Understanding the basic science behind your workout is crucial to long-term success when it comes to weight loss.

Holly: What’s your favorite way of connecting with your clients? How do you show them LOVE—JARI LOVE, that is?

Jari Love: My favorite way of connecting with clients and really showing them who I am is through teaching fitness classes. Talking with clients before and after class, learning from them and getting to know who they are, means the world to me. Sometimes after watching my videos, people have felt intimidated to come up and talk and get to know the person behind the workout, so I always make sure to remain approachable and willing to engage on a personal level. It’s only from this kind of connecting that I’ve been able to create such a successful system, because I feel I really listen and understand what people need and want from their workout and for their lives when it comes to physical health. I also think what makes me stand out is that this is not a vanity show for me, what you see is what you get. The way I handle and talk to students in my class is the same way I would greet or talk to someone in a grocery store.

Holly: Talk about how fitness has changed your life. Any challenges with weight and/or body image?

Jari Love: Fitness has had a huge impact on my life. My biological mother and father were both obese and genetically I put on weight very easily. I had a weight problem in my late teens, when girls are often first starting to develop their sense of self. I wasn’t really aware of my weight as an issue or target until one day when I went go-carting with my boyfriend and his pals. As I sat in one, they started to joke about how I was flattening the tires. This was a big eye-opener, not just about my weight, but also about taking control over my life and learning to not let others affect how I feel about myself in each stage of the journey.

Over time I’ve also learned to use fitness to help handle whatever storm comes up in my life. The effects of fitness help keep my body and mind running at their best, and assist in balancing the hormones and inner chemistry that, when out of whack, can turn a calm compassionate woman into an irritable time bomb! So when stuff comes up that I need to deal with, I have a 48 hour rule: if it’s really bothersome, give it 48 hours and commit to doing an intense workout during this time. I always feel better and come back to it with a fresh perspective after that.

Holly: How might you find motivation to work out on a day when you just don’t feel like it?

Jari Love: I always try to associate pleasure with working out, not pain. I don’t think of it as a chore. If I’m about to work out at home and find myself struggling to get started, I turn on the TV to something upbeat and energizing to watch, like a high energy rock concert. Even playing some tunes I love on my ipod with great cadence can be enough to put me the mood to get going.

Holly: What’s your advice to those who say they “don’t have time” to work out—especially Metropolitan career women on the go? How much exercise is considered enough?

Jari Love: As women, we often put everything else ahead of us, career, kids, home life, we forget that our personal needs are a priority too. We often leave the workout to the bottom of the list and yet our bodies thrive on 30 minutes a day of exercise  – at a minimum! Even someone like Oprah, who is the definition of a high-powered career woman, finds a way to fit exercise in to her schedule. When we take care of the core needs of our bodies, it benefits everything and everyone else around us, we’re healthier, in a better mood, and have more energy.

My advice is to put your workout before your latte. Women often see going for coffee as “me” time, but turning your workout into “me” time and then fitting the coffee in when you can will leave you with a much deeper sense of personal reward.

Holly: So many people forget to do strength-training exercises. I see women at the gym doing only cardio and never weights. Explain why weight training is important.

Jari Love: Weights are crucial to overall fitness, and highly effective in weight loss and management, especially as we age. One study showed that as our bodies get older, they put on an average of 15-17 pounds of fat and lose about 5-7 pounds of muscle. This is a really big deal when it comes to burning calories and metabolism. We burn an extra 30-50 calories a day per pound of muscle, so building and maintaining muscle weight is what makes the biggest difference in keeping the fat off. Lots of women worry that weight training makes you bulky, but that’s not how I’ve designed the Get RIPPED! workouts. Anyone who’s done them over a period of time knows that high intensity weight training, done in intervals with aerobic exercise, makes you lean and ripped without the bulk of a bodybuilder. The other exciting news about weights training, as I mentioned earlier, is that with aerobic exercise your metabolism sinks immediately after you stop, but when you add the weight training, it stays elevated for hours after the workout! I utilize the benefits of weight training in all my videos, and you can pick your workout based on your goals. For example, if your goal is to lose a lot of weight fast, the high intensity interval training in the Get RIPPED! 1000 is especially effective in delivering speedy results.

Holly: What’s your favorite way to motivate people, particularly other women?

Jari Love: I motivate others through affirmations, positive words, great music while we work out, and most of all by walking the talk inside and outside the gym.

Holly: What do you love most about your career? Which part of it makes you feel happiest?

Jari Love: So many things! One of the most rewarding parts of my career is watching people follow through on their goals and succeed, and how it changes their life. This is a very uplifting career because people are always sharing their personal feedback and experiences. When I teach a class in front of all those smiling faces and then they stay behind after to talk about their progress and goals, I feel like I’m surrounded by not just clients but a very large group of friends.

Holly: What do you love most about yourself? Don’t be shy!

Jari Love: What I value most about myself is that I work hard to be someone who is approachable, generous, and who listens. I’m also always willing to learn more, no matter the subject. I consider myself a student of life.

Holly: I know you do a lot of charity work. Can you talk a little bit about the ways you prefer to make a difference in your community?

Jari Love: I’m a big believer in sharing the wealth of one’s life, and one way I commit to doing that is by fundraising for causes I believe in. One group I’ve worked with over the years is Inn from the Cold, a grassroots movement dedicated to improving life for homeless families. Having my own kids get involved, too, helps give them a broader perspective on life. And to me that’s a huge part of developing character and defining what success is really about; not just focusing on how great we are as individuals, but how well we support those around us and in our community.

Holly: Are there any specific turning points in your life that you would like to acknowledge?

Jari Love: A big turning point took place during my time as a member of a country pop band with my sisters when I was younger. It was easy to get wrapped up in the lifestyle of going to parties and events like the Country Music Awards, of trying to make it big and embody the “celebrity” lifestyle. A lot of weight (no pun intended) was put on giving off the right image. One time we were shooting a video in Nashville, and without thinking about it between takes I stopped to talk to a homeless man and gave him quarter. My agent saw and came over and yelled at me, asking what I thought I was doing. He said I needed to carry myself properly and always act like a star. Things shifted for me right then and there, and the emptiness of what stardom meant to most people made me realize this was not my calling. I needed to build a career around something that would let me be the real me at my best and encourage others to do the same.

Holly: Finally, Most people know you as Jari the fitness guru. But what’s something about you that most people don’t know? Any quirks or kooky habits? What makes you unique? What makes you, YOU?

Jari Love: I’m a Christmas fanatic! Every year my tree is up by the end of October, including lights, decorations, the whole show! I would say what makes me, me, is that I’m led through life by a tenacious drive, a curious mind and a multi-tasking nature that always keeps me on the go with new and exciting projects. I believe in the importance of developing resilience and strive to teach my kids that how you handle situations is more important than always getting what you want. When I do take a break, I can be found lounging in a pair of fantastic flannel pajamas, sometimes for the whole day if I can get away with it.

 

Oh, Jari. Thanks for sharing the love with us! We heart you!

 

Photo Credit: Kristian Bogner © 2005 (used with permission)