Okay, so you gained a few pounds during your winter slump, you lost your job, or maybe the love of your life dumped you. Whatever the matter may be…GET OVER IT!
Ladies, it’s about time that we get up off our behinds and start living. Sulking over a few unwanted pounds will only bring us deeper into a rut. So take your hands out of the bag of potato chips, remove yourself from the kitchen, and listen up.
There is something so irresistible about a woman who knows what she wants. Look at Samantha Jones from Sex and the City, a powerful woman, who strives to satisfy herself in every pleasurable way. When a woman knows what she wants, her mind can only focus on the act of obtaining everything and anything.
Do you ever wonder how certain women have the job, the body, and the man too? Well, the secret to success and having everything you want lies entirely on you and the way you feel about yourself.
It’s hard enough to pull ourselves out of a rut, especially when we are disgusted with our current life-style. Happiness may seem impossible to attain, but here’s the kicker…everything is at your fingertips, you just have to want it.
Recently, I was given the greatest advice that would lift me out of my own self- wallowing rut. After complaining about my nonexistent love life, my lack of motivation in my work, and my over excessive eating habits, my therapist said to me, “Judiann, do what you love and everything else will follow.” After letting this marinate in my mind for bit, it hit me, before the boys, before the job, is me, I come first.
If we set out to look for something, or someone, like a boyfriend, the odds of us actually finding our knight in shining armor at our local pub is pretty slim to none, so take this time to get in touch with yourself and bring yourself back to happiness without the boyfriend blues and try to understand what it is that you truly need.
For me, I thought the answer to all of my problems was to pack my things and leave. But we all know, that it’s not about where we are physically, it’s about where we are at mentally. You can’t run away from your problems when the problem lies within you. Here’s a life tip to remember: we can never escape ourselves, so you might as well embrace it.
The difference between planning and doing.
The amount of times I have made a list of things to do and accomplished nothing on it is pretty pathetic. The key here is to just act. Stop thinking and start doing. The more we think about what it is that we want to do, the less we do, and the more we doubt.
A confident person does not doubt herself, she believes in herself. Believing in your decisions shows that you know what you want, and as a result, you’ll be sure to get it.
When it comes to job interviews, first dates, and anything that requires you to be fully present in mind, body, and spirit, this is important to keep in mind. Go with your gut. It’s always right.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself.
For me, I like to break people in by using my sense of humor, but when I get nervous, I tend to clam up and avoid dropping my inappropriate one-liners. Obviously there is a time and a place for everything, but when it comes to certain scenarios, like being out with your girlfriends on a Saturday night, there is no reason to hold back. If you have to think about every little thing before you say it, the chances are, you’re afraid of rejection. Why tone down who you actually are? Let it all hang out and if someone doesn’t like it, then it’s on to the next.
A very wise woman once told me that everyone has the right to be happy. This always stuck in my mind because when it comes down to making a decision, ideally, I want to do what makes me happy. Girls, we can’t possibly please everyone, so do what is right for you. Knowing that your happiness is just as important shows that you trust and love yourself. Besides, we can’t expect people to love us if we can’t love ourselves.
Don’t let Insecurities burn your bridges.
Even I am at fault for this one. For some odd reason, girls especially, tend to be apologetic for every little thing they do. I don’t know what the deal is, or when this all began, but enough is enough. We’re women and we are powerful. Put an end to apologizing and stop pointing out your insecurities. Guys do not find this attractive. In my life, the girls who are in happy relationships are the ones who are confident in their relationship. Insecurities and relationships is a recipe for disaster.
Displaying your insecurities is a sign of weakness, so why advocate that you are a weak person to the entire world? When it comes down to your career, kick this habit to the curb. Hold your head up high, act like you know what you’re doing, and you’ll kill it in an interview. Confidence shows that you can handle stressful situations, so look sexy doing it and land that awesome job you’ve only dreamed about.
In the words of Helen Reddy, “I am strong, I am invincible, I am woman.” Listen girls, I am not saying to go off and burn your bras, but as a modern feminist, I feel as though the biggest downfall for girls today is their lack of confidence in themselves. As a result we do not get the respect that we deserve. Let’s break this vicious cycle and grab life by the balls, or whatever you’d like to grab, (hello, it’s 2011…anything goes!) and show the world that confidence is always sexy.
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